More
people live in the world today than at any other time in history, more than 8
billion with another 200,000 added daily.
More people live in the United States today than at any other time in
history, over 335 million with 80% living in cities. We are more connected than ever before, by
cell phone, text, email and social media. And, despite all this, we are lonely.
A
recent headline in USA Today, proclaimed, “Americans are lonely and it’s
killing them. ”The article went on to say, “ America has a new epidemic. It cannot
be treated using traditional therapies even though it has debilitating even
deadly consequences. The problem seeping in at the corners of our communities
is loneliness.
Perhaps
our drive to gather in huge numbers is a symptom of our loneliness. Stadiums and sports venues are
overflowing. The Taylor Swift Eras tour has
packed out stadiums worldwide, averaging 72,000 per concert in the US. Swift
jetted home from Tokyo to join more than 61,000 at the Super Bowl in Las Vegas,
while more than 200,000 packed the Waste Management golf tournament in Phoenix.
At
one time or another we all feel lonely. Even though we are surrounded by other
people. Sometimes it stems from a
feeling that no one seems to understand, that no one knows who we really are “inside.” Sometimes it stems from having no one in whom
we can confide.
Sometimes
we feel like we just don’t fit in. This
can be especially acute for teenagers trying to find their way, searching for
their own identity. The urge to dress
alike, look alike, talk alike and act alike can be overwhelming and leave us
with a feeling that, for all our efforts to be accepted, we don’t belong.
At
other times, loneliness is the result of isolation. This can be especially true
for the home-bound, the disabled and the elderly, widows and widowers. Days may pass without having a visitor or
someone with whom to talk.
So,
how do we respond in this age of loneliness.
There are several simple starting places.
First,
know that God knows you. He knows you better than you know yourself. “Before I formed
you in the womb, I knew you,” (Jeremiah 1:5).
“Lord, you have searched me and known me. You know when
I sit down and when I get up; you understand my thought from
far away. You scrutinize my path and
my lying down, and are acquainted with all my ways, (Psalm
139:1-3). “
Second,
seek out a faith community. Go to
church. Participate in a small group
where you can be known and loved. “Not abandoning
our own meeting together but encouraging one another, and all the more as you
see the day approaching,” (Hebrews 10:25).
Third,
be there for someone else. Seek out the
isolated, the ostracized and the rejected.
Be a friend to someone else. Visit
the homebound. Pick up the phone. Call
someone.
God
never intended that we should be alone or feel lonely. From the outset of creation
God saw that “It is not good for man to be alone,” (Genesis 2:18). “A father of the fatherless and a judge for the
widows, Is God in His holy dwelling. God makes a home for the lonely,” (Psalm
68:5-6).
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