A First Step to Health and Wholeness

As Maxim Naumov waited for the results of his figure-skating performance at the Winter Olympics, he held up a photo of himself at age 8 standing between his mother and father.  His parents were 1994 world champion pairs skaters.  They died last year in the Potomac River crash, passengers on the ill-fated American Eagle flight 5342.  Maxim stated, "I would not be sitting here without the unimaginable work, effort and love from my parents.”

 Jordan Stolz won his second gold medal with an Olympic record in the 500-meter speed skating event. His parents, Dirk and Jane, introduced Jordan to skating at age 5 on a frozen pond near their house in  Kewaskum, WI. He credits his parents, who are born again Christians, for instilling him with discipline and faith.

 Athletes in every sport give credit to their parents. Regardless of nationality or ethnicity; regardless of whether we are rich or poor, most of us have this urge to keep the fifth commandment: “Honor your father and your mother.” It is, as the Apostle Paul reminded us, the first commandment with a promise: “that your days may be long upon the earth.”

 My father died of multiple myeloma when he was 53.  I held his hand as he drew his last breath. He never held an office. Never taught a class. He operated the elevator at our church, ran the sound system and served as a deacon.  More than 800 attended his funeral.

 I never heard him speak one word of profanity. He loved our mother and he loved us.  He was always full of laughter. I saw him choose to be wronged rather than risk wronging others.  The night before he died, he sent a get well card to a friend who was on another floor of the hospital. 

 My mother likewise loved God and sought to serve others. She lived as a widow after my father’s death for 35 years.  She chaperoned special-needs kids on the bus and sat with them at church. She volunteered at the local hospital. The day before she died my children gathered around her bed.  We prayed together and she blessed them.

 Of course, not all fathers and mothers are good.  The relationship between parent and child can be the source of life’s greatest joy as well as its greatest pain. Some live their lives haunted by resentment and anger toward their parents. 

 We somehow sense, as witnessed by our obsession with the parent-child relationship in books and movies, that this relationship is essential to health and wholeness. We hear it in King Lear’s complaint, “How sharper than a serpent’s tooth is a thankless child!”  We find it in John Steinbeck’s East of Eden, Luke Skywalker’s discovery that Darth Vador is his father, or Ray Kinsella building a baseball diamond in his Iowa corn field to “ease his pain.”    All of these stories, and thousands more, reflect our urge to be reconciled to those who gave us birth. 

 Health and wholeness for each of us starts with the fifth commandment, “Honor your father and mother.” Regardless of past hurts, oversights or failures, regardless of our parents’ response, we are to honor mother and father. 

Rest for the Weary - The Fourth Commandment

 Somewhere along the way we reduced the ten commandments to nine. A half-century ago, businesses were closed on Sunday and sporting events recognized Sunday as a day for worship. All that has changed. Today our calendars are filled up to a 24/7 frenzy. We effectively eliminated the fourth commandment as irrelevant and archaic: “Remember the Sabbath day to keep it holy.”

 A report from the American Psychological Association stated, “Chronic stress is increasingly eating away at our overall well-being.” … “The psychological and physical toll of stress in America will undoubtedly continue to snowball if something doesn't change.”

 In his book, Living the Sabbath, Discovering the Rhythms of Rest and Delight, Norman Wirzba writes, “Put simply, Sabbath discipline introduces us to God’s own ways of joy and delight. … When our work and our play, our exertion and our rest flow seamlessly from this deep desire to give thanks to God, the totality of our living --- cooking, eating, cleaning, preaching, parenting, building, repairing, healing, creating --- becomes one sustained and ever-expanding act of worship.”

When Jesus said that man was not made for the Sabbath but the Sabbath was made for man, he affirmed the need for the Sabbath in our lives. He underscored the importance of the Sabbath to all of us for mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health. 

In 1924 Scotland’s Eric Liddell, the fastest runner in the world, refused to compete at the Olympics on the Lord’s Day.  When the King of England commanded him to run for his country on Sunday, Liddell respectfully replied he had a higher king.  The Academy Award winning movie, Chariots of Fire portrays Liddell reading Isaiah 40:31 to a congregation on Sunday while young men stumble and fall on the mud-splattered track. “Those who wait for the Lord will gain new strength; they will mount up with wings like eagles, they will run and not get tired, they will walk and not faint.”  The next week, Liddell ran the 400 meter, a race for which he had not trained, won the gold and set a new world record.

Sabbath requires time for rest, silence, solitude and worship, but it is more than a day of rest. It is a way of life that is filled with wonder, worship, awe and delight. When Jesus declared himself the Lord of the Sabbath, he offered to us a better way. He said, “Come unto me all you who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn of me, for I am gentle and humble in heart and you will find rest to your souls.”

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Regarding the Refugee

 We have always thought of ourselves as a nation of courage and hope.  Few statements reflect our identity better than the quote affixed to the Statue of Liberty, “Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses.”  There is something sacred about Ellis Island, the entry point for so many who came in response to the beacon of life and liberty.  Most of us are descendants of those who came.

 I served the churches of Minnesota and Wisconsin for eight years, 1993-2001.  I watched the people of Minnesota open their arms and their homes to refugees from around the world. I came to love them for their courage, courtesy, kindness and tenacity.

 Facing severe persecution in the civil wars that swept across Liberia, thousands fled to the United States. A few years ago I attended the building dedication for Ebenezer Liberian Church in Brooklyn Park, MN.  More than a thousand people showed up.  They filled the auditorium and spilled over into corridors and classrooms.  I was inspired by their hymns, songs and testimonies to God’s goodness and grace.

 In Minnesota I met Hmong Christian leaders.  The Hmong were Animists from the hill country of Laos and close allies to the U.S. during the Vietnam War.  Following the fall of Vietnam, they fled brutal persecution and sought refuge in America.  More than ¼ million now live in the U.S. Many have embraced Christ. There are now more than 140 Hmong Christian churches in the United States, most in Minnesota, Wisconsin and California.  Their children are attending college and moving into professional ranks.

 Five decades ago I visited Vietnamese refugee camps in central Texas.  Most were “boat people” who fled persecution and poverty after the fall of South Vietnam. We picked them up with buses and brought them to our church, even though most spoke little English. A few members in our church resented their presence, but most reached out with the compassion of Christ. Today more than 1.5 million Vietnamese call America home. The largest Christian Vietnamese church has over 4,000 members and the number of Vietnamese Christians is growing.

 When Jesus introduced himself to the synagogue in his hometown at Nazareth, he infuriated the crowd by stating that God loved the Syrians. He reminded them that Elisha healed a Syrian leper when there were many lepers in Israel. They were so enraged they tried to throw Jesus off a high cliff.  (Luke 4:16-30).

 We are always afraid and suspicious of people who are different than we are. But “perfect love casts out fear.”  Isaiah says, “Hide the fugitives, do not betray the refugees.  Let the fugitives stay with you; be their shelter from the destroyer. The oppressor will come to an end, and destruction will cease; the aggressor will vanish from the land.”  (Isaiah 16:3-4).