On Monday of this week I preached the funeral for Barbara, my
wife’s sister. She was 79.
They grew up on Slaughter Road, a small blue-collar
community on the west side of the Brazos River off Highway 36 at Freeport, TX. The houses were built by survivors of the
Great Depression, with their own hands. While they were building their houses, they
built a church, Calvary Baptist Church, also with their own hands. It was there that Barbara came to faith in
Christ. In that same church, a young man named Vernon Bundick came to faith in
Christ along with his brother, Bobby. Barbara and Vernon fell in love in the 3rd
grade when Vernon had his front tooth knocked out and Barbara thought he was
irresistible. They were married in that
same little church.
In 1995 Vernon died from a tragic accident on their
property. Their children were grown, and they had purchased undeveloped land for
their dream home. In the process of clearing the property, a tree limb split
and knocked Vernon from the top of a dozer where he was standing. The fall left
him unconscious. He recovered, but a few days later, a blood clot went to his
heart. He died in Barbara’s arms in a matter of minutes.
She found herself alone, shattered and broken. But
through sheer determination, courage, and faith, she fought her way back,
developed the property, built a beautiful house, and dedicated herself to
blessing others. Over the last 27 years
I watched her grow with a deep faith and a big heart, reaching out to family, friends,
and strangers.
My wife and I stayed at my brother’s house in Galveston
to be near Barbara in her final weeks. I have had the opportunity each morning
to go for sunrise walks on the beach. It
seemed to me that the waves washing on the shore were like the heartbeat of the
earth, echoing the heartbeat of the universe.
On Wednesday last week she was no longer able to leave
her bed. She struggled for consciousness, increasingly overcome by the cancer.
When we arrived at the house, she was awake. She was
surrounded by her children and grandchildren. After she smiled and greeted her
sister, I spoke with her. Her sparkling blue eyes had grown dull and gray. But
her smile was still there. She whispered to me. “I am near the edge.”
I said, “Yes, you are.”
I said, “This morning I went for a sunrise walk on the
beach. I stood there, on the edge of the eternal sea watching the sun rise in
the distance, a great red ball rising among the broken purple clouds. I thought of you,” I said. “It is a beautiful place to be, on the edge
of eternity.”
She nodded her head, “Yes, it is.”
I asked if we could pray. Again, she nodded her
head. ‘I would like that.”
We held hands, Barbara, me, her sister, her children, and
her grandchildren. We prayed, letting
her go, committing her to the Father who first loved her and gave her to us.
Her body lingered for two more days. It is difficult for the human body to let
go.
On Friday I believe she heard another voice whispering in
her ear, perhaps those tender words He whispered into the ear of a 12-year-old
girl, “Talitha, kum, (Little girl, I say to you, arise.)” (Mark 5:41).